Sometimes when things don’t go as well in a relationship, it can be very challenging to talk about it with your BF or long term roommate. Often we assume the worst, and avoid open discussion, but having that conversation is really important. You and your BF can become each other’s best Wingman, and watch out for each other. Establishing some boundaries, paradoxically sets both free. Think safe words in a S&M situation. Setting boundaries can be very sexy too!

We all have one. Our girl-friend, best pal, sister who always watches out for us, feed us ice cream when we’re down, accompany us to the club and becomes our wingperson when we need them too.

Meet Michael, 30 years old, single AF and hungry for love, and he will meet 4 types of guys you want to avoid. Watch on to gather some practical tips on how to avoid them too!

We asked a bunch of people who their wingman is and how their wingman have got their backs when things got hard. We would also like to thank all the wing persons out there who have held our earrings, held up our hair when we drank too much, or reminded us to use a condom or accompanied us to our first HIV test.

We heart you.

What is a Wingman?

A Wingman is somebody who looks out for you and is there for you through all your ups and downs in life: be it on social events, sexual encounters, mental matters or even other areas.

A Wingman is someone whom you can confide in about your sexual experiences, without fear of judgement because you know they have your best interests at heart.  You also know that they will be able to help you make the best decision for your sexual health.  A Wingman is someone who guides you through the good & bad days.

They are after all, your pillar of support and you know you can depend on them because they love you for who you are.

Why be a Wingman?

We grow and shape ourselves into better people, yet we sometimes forget about the ones around us who helped to shape us to who we are today.

All of us have important people in our lives who are there for us and help to guide us in our life journey, or at times when we felt lost and helpless. Likewise, we want to be there for others when they are in need.

As a Wingman, we can be that person for someone else to confide in, share their joy and sadness and genuinely care for them with no judgement.

When things get hard… We’ve #GotYouCovered

Just picture this scene: It’s a Saturday and you’re itching to head out to the bars for a good time.

You text a close friend and you two head to the bar for a drink. Your eyes dart around for eye candies as you catch up with your friend about how stressful work has been and how your recent date was a flop.

You two have so much fun and before you know it, the jug of long island tea has kicked into your system. Your vision starts to blur, and your feet start to feel like jelly. You are aware of your surroundings… you think.

Before you know it, you are slipping in and out of consciousness. The next moments you see glimpses of a familiar face helping you into a taxi, checking up on you occasionally as you drink the bottle of water that mysteriously appeared in front of you, and opening the front door as you close your eyes.

When you wake up, you are tucked into your own bed safe and sound with a throbbing headache, remembering the night before. You do a quick check and that your valuables are all intact.

Reaching for your phone, you respond to your friend’s texts asking about your hangover. You thank him for getting you home safely the night before while he recounts every embarrassing moment that happened while you were drunk.

Despite the loss of memory and the slight tinge of embarrassment, you can’t help but smile as you get ready for lunch with that close friend.

That friend – he’s your wingman for sure.

What kind of Wingman are you?

Being a Wingman means being brutally honest with your friend if you think he is making bad decisions, be it about relationships or his sexual health matters.

He may think that you are nagging at him, but as a Wingman, you know that you only want the best for him, and keeping quiet won’t do him any good.

What more can I do?

As a wingman, you may have to broach certain sensitive topics even if it is not going to be pleasant. Having good listening and empathy skills will prove useful as you provide the moral support to your friend.

To be a better Wingman, it is useful to be aware of sexual health information, especially if your friend or yourself end up in situations where your sexual health or theirs may have been compromised.


Condom Broke Or Exposed To HIV?

PEP or Post-Exposure Prophylaxis, is a combination of anti-HIV medication that can prevent you from becoming HIV positive if you think you were exposed to the the virus.

It must be started within:

  • 72 hours.
  • It can reduce your chances of becoming HIV+ by up to 80%
  • Must be taken for 28 days.

Tips for wingman:

If your pal finds himself in a situation where he might be exposed to HIV and isn’t on PrEP, drop us a message by clicking the pink Facebook Messenger button below.

  • Drop by DSC Clinic at 31 Kelantan Lane first thing in the morning.
  • If it’s the weekend, go to the emergency department of any hospital and request for PEP, and follow the instructions from the doctor on duty.
  • PEP cost $500 to $1200 depending on the course of medication required, but there are cheaper alternatives.
  • If he can’t afford it, message us and we can try to help out.

Click the link above to arm yourself with the latest information about PEP or send the link to him.


Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis

PrEP stands for Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis, it is the use of anti-HIV medications to keep HIV negative people from becoming infected.

PrEP has been shown to be safe and effective at preventing HIV infection when taken correctly. You MUST consult a doctor before starting PrEP.

It is NOT:

  • A magic pill that prevents you from other sexually transmitted infections.
  • A morning after pill.

PrEP must be taken on a timely schedule.

Tips for a wingman:

If your pal often finds himself in a situation where he:

  • Forgets to use a condom,
  • Doesn’t have a condom on him all the time,
  • Prefers to not use a condom or wants additional protection on top of condom use,

PrEP may be a good option for him.

Let him know how simple and effective PrEP is, and encourage him to speak to a Pink Carpet volunteer or make an appointment with the doctor.

However, do remind your friend that PrEP is most effective when paired with consistent and correct condom use.

Click the link above to arm yourself with the latest information about PrEP or send the link to him.

STI Screening

Sexually transmitted infection (STIs) can occur in anyone who is sexually active, regardless of their gender, age or sexual orientation. Many people may be unaware that they have been infected as symptoms may take some time to manifest.

Regular screening allows you to take control and continue to enjoy the sex you want, while having the ease of mind that you are not compromising your sexual health nor the ones of those you care for.

Visit DSC Clinic for a LGBTQ+ friendly, safe & affordable screening experience.